Working through your fears. Sometimes that’s a thing we need to do. You hear that a lot, if there’s something you are afraid of, when that fear is holding you back, face it and work through it so you can get past it.
That can be true. But not always.
For example, I’m really afraid of heights. And I’m okay with that, it’s not something I feel the need to say, “I must conquer that fear!” There are things that I’m just not going to do, like standing on the edge of something high, mountain climbing, sky diving….all kind of sort of related to that, and I’m good. I don’t WANT to do those things, and so my fear isn’t keeping me from anything really. (Now if they were things I wanted to do, that would be a different story!)
That’s not the kind of fear I’m talking about.
It’s when fear is holding you back from really living your life the way you want.
The ones that ARE keeping from doing something you really want to do. And it could be something like my fear of heights, or perhaps public speaking, or flying….or some specific fear like that. And then that would be something to work on and get over, or at least to where you could deal with it, so you could do that thing you want.
But even more, what I’m really talking about are those fears that are of something a little less tangible, more internal….that plague us all at times. Fears like, what will people think, what if I fail, what if this happens, what if, what if, what if?
These are the fears we have that can hold us back from doing something we really want to do. And those are the ones to work on getting over. Is it worth missing out, so you don’t have to face that what if? Is that fear more important? And that “what if” might not even happen, and even if it did….I kind of want to say, so what? Would it really be that bad?
I’m not saying that lightly because I have those thoughts too. But I’ve come to learn that letting those fears rule you, is not worth it.
The regret of just not doing the things you truly want to do in your life is not worth it.
And so what if someone doesn’t get what you are doing, is their opinion more important than yours?
I’m certainly not perfect at it, and still fight those fears, but I’ve definitely gotten a lot better at not letting them hold me back. And that’s definitely worth it.
So what is it that you are afraid of that you need to get over? Do it. You’ll be glad you did.